Life is about choices. Every day we make decisions that have the potential to change our lives. It may not be drastic, hell it may even be as simple as decaf (which is foolish), but every action has a reaction. Each choice effects us in some way shape or form. People say that things happen for a reason. Most of the time, that reason is because of a choice you made. There are exceptions. We don’t chose to get life threatening illnesses. In saying that, some illnesses can definitely be avoided by making “better” choices. You don’t want lung cancer? Simple, don’t smoke. You don’t want your teeth to rot and your face to crater? Don’t do meth. Shit, just don’t do meth in general. I don’t care who you are, THAT is bad choice.
People die every day from bad decisions. That was their choice. Other people shouldn’t be held accountable for one individual’s choice. That’s why I don’t feel pity. If choose to do highly toxic methamphetamines and you die as a result, thats not my problem. You made that decision yourself, I didn’t make it for you. I can’t feel bad about something that wasn’t my decision. If anything, it makes me question your mindset and your intentions, and your moral compass for that matter. But then again, who am I to judge? I make choices that other people may not agree with. I consume too much caffeine, I have a bad temper, I probably drink more than I should, I work too much, I have convictions of my own.. The list goes on. But those are my choices. Im not physically harming anyone or intentionally trying to be destructive. Thats my choice. Im just a loud mouth, Irish asshole. My choices are my choices, and no other person should feel remotely responsible for what I do.
It makes me think of those people who pull the “my way or the highway” bullshit. They make a choice to be a bully, and they lose a lot of respect in the process. The individuals who go along with it make the choice to be controlled, and they in turn allow someone else to dictate their lives. A shitty choice I may add. Ive been taught from a young age that we are in control of our own destinies. There lays truth in triumph. We just have to have faith in the process and faith in ourselves to do right by our morals. Im not a preachy type of person. I have my beliefs and my morality, but they are my own. I don’t agree with pushing religion onto people, especially when everyone has their own beliefs. Thats my choice. Its not my place to tell others how to live their lives. I do however, have full right to have faith that people will make good choices for themselves. I try to hold faith that God will help those who help themselves and do kind things. Thats my internal hope for positive outcomes. I have no say in what will happen, but I can sure as hell pray that goodness and happiness come to those I love and to those who have bigger problems than I do.
Contrary to what most see my lifestyle as, which everyone likes to judge because well, thats their choice, I dedicate my life to helping others. I try to be the best possible person I can. I do nice things for people and give more than I receive. Im perfectly okay with that. Nothing makes me happier than seeing someone else genuinely happy. That’s what life is about. Thats a result of choices. I pray every night. I pray for happiness, not for myself, but for the people around me and those whom are in my life. I pray that my brothers and sisters are healthy and happy, that my extended family finds peace and sanctity. I pray for my friends (past and present) to have endless possibilities of success and to find their passions. I pray for the safety and security of those serving our country, whether it be overseas or on bases. And I pray for those who have difficulties staying afloat, regardless of their situation. Like I said, I dont pity anyone who makes bad decisions and suffers the consequences. In fact, I dont pity anyone. Thats my choice. It’s also my choice to have faith and pray for a better outcome for those individuals. Thats my perspective. Faith is universal. Faith is also a choice. Make wise decisions. Dictate your life in a way that creates positivity. Your responsible for your own choices. Just make sure you take the time to think about how your decisions will affect the people in your life. It’s not their job to spend their life wondering why you made specific decisions and to wonder what they “could’ve done”. You owe it to the people that care about you to be prosperous and live a fulfilling life.
Be the person your grandma thinks you are. Be kind and make choices in good faith. Shit, you made the choice to sit and read through this, so in my opinion of being a self proclaimed happiness expert, you’re not doing too bad for yourself 🙂
Thanks for the time, and remember that you are the master of your own destiny. Take life by the horns and do it right! We get one shot, choose wisely